Hi
A friend told me a story today that stuck with me for a long time. She said that she was in love with a man who didn't trust her. She began to tell me a story about how the relationship was very different. One that was not in the ordinary realm of things. The fact that she had not been as responsive to him as she should have been or wanted to be. The relationship suffered because of that. She was planning to go to therapy because of This blockage that she was having but she felt something else going on and she wanted to ask me what I thought about it. She wanted to make a concerted effort to change the relationship this New Year and wanted advice on what to do. She thought that her mate felt that she must be seeing someone else or at least overly friendly with someone else because she was not responding to him. He called her a whore and made several references that she must be seeing someone else because she was not responding to him. She has two men that she worked with who were considered a threat at work. Both seem to flirt but nothing is going on at all with either of them, but her friend thinks that she must be doing something, after all women are not very upstanding in his book. Both of these men are married and in relationships. She continued to insist that there was noone else but he didn't believe her. He didnt trust her. After all, she wasnt very warm and loving to him. Probably like Mary and Joseph at one time. She finally realized that she was not going to convince him on her own and even if she had therapy he would continue to believe that there must be someone else in the relationship. How could she convince him or should she even try? Was she paranoid that he felt threatened? Would he ever trust her? Was she worth the risk? Was thsi the one to take the plunge? Did he really feel secure with this one? What should she do? What should she do?
Well, I'm no shrink, nor do I like to give advice to any one about their love life, after all, mine is not one to hold up and admire, but I told her to pray and let God give her an answer because the truth should always be the divining rod for every situation. The Truth. How was she to know the truth. Search your heart and if you still feel that you dont know the truth then you are not ready for the relationship. There is not another man in the situation. Then the truth will be the answer. The fact that something is still wrong and the relationship is not where she thinks it should be, maybe the truth is that this is where its suppose to be and she may need to accept that fact. I told her to ask the Lord to search her heart and to guide her to where He wanted her to be. The truth of the matter. What is troubling your heart? Do you think I gave my friend good advice?
I had been trying to think of something for you for Christmas that would give you a sense of me whenever you wore it or saw it. I thought of a nice scarf and gloves. Some chocolate, since I know you are a chocolate lover. Something that would remind you of me. Then I thought of it. I like a fragrance that I cannot get at any store. I have to order it online. I found it when I was in London in 2004. Its Flower by Kenzo. I really like. So I thought why not get you the male fragrance. You may not like it but I know that you do wear fragrances and at least I know that I have something that is matching. Like matching sweaters or jackets. Matching hats, t-shirts. Something matching that belongs just to you and me. I hope you like it. I ordered it today and I hope to have it by Saturday. I'll bring it to church on Sunday. So now that gives me a sense of peace. I have found a present that I think you will like. 